Support Groups

Empowerment, Information and Cookies
Whenever someone mentioned a Support Group, I envisioned distraught, sobbing people. With that image in mind, you can imagine my reluctance when, after being diagnosed with breast cancer, my husband suggested we find a Support Group. This is one discussion I'm glad I lost.

When we went to our first meeting of the Christie Clinic Breast Cancer Support Group, I was immediately struck by the attitude of empowerment. There was no complaining. There was discussion and leading edge information. There was no sobbing. There were questions and practical answers. And, there were cookies.

"My sister refused to go to a Support Group after her diagnosis. As a result, she had trouble coping” said Barbara Godsell. "I thought - not me! This group helped take away my fears when I was diagnosed. It's not a pity group; it's uplifting."

Lorie Hatfield had never met anyone with breast cancer until she was diagnosed. She was under 40 and hesitant to go to a Support Group because of her age. She thought no one would understand but, at the urging of a nurse, she gave it a try. "I was the youngest but I found out that everyone's situation was similar. I didn't feel so alone."

My husband was smart enough to get us to the Support Group while we were still in the decision making process. That made all the difference. I didn't realize all the choices that had to be made. The group provided great advice. I can't tell you how comforting it is to go into a surgical situation trusting your decision. Mary Claire Smith agrees. "The minute you're diagnosed, before you make any decisions, you should come to the Support Group. This group taught me to be my own advocate."

It's also the best place to gather information. Each month we have a speaker or a discussion where we hear:

• The newest techniques and technologies
• The latest research results and clinical studies
• Practical advice for pre- and post-surgery
• Personal tips for feeling and looking our best
• How to help others cope with diagnosis for themselves and their loved ones

Six years after being diagnosed, Lorie still attends the monthly meetings. "I continue learning and now I'm the one providing the support."

'There's a comradery, a sistership" interjected Mary Claire. And yes, we have cookies.